We were over at my parents house over the weekend and they live on a street that has a culdesac at the end of the road. Well Kaylyn, my dad and I were out in the front yard playing. One of the girls down the street was outside playing in her yard. After a while several other girls showed up and I could tell they were having a birthday party. For a while Kaylyn didn't notice all of the activities that was going on down the street (I was relieved) but when she did came the hard part. One of the girls saw her and asked to come to the party...well that would have been fine but it was a birthday party. My dad and I agreed that she didn't need to go because technically she wasn't invited to start with. It was nothing on purpose we just didnt really know them to start with and Kaylyn had only played with the other girl once or twice.
My thoughts were that she wasn't invited which could mean not enough food,cake or cupcakes and/or goody bags. And of course I didn't want to put the birthday girl's mom in a tizzy. She wasn't even out there and I didn't want my kid to "mysteriously" show up. So my dad and I thought it best that Kaylyn not go...well of course Kaylyn thought otherwise. Of course she didnt understand our reasoning and why would she? She is 5! She didnt understand that when I told her she wasnt invited her response was yes the girls told me to come. It just really hurt me to explain it to her because she didnt get it...I really thought she was thinking I was just being mean. I wasnt I just was honestly trying to protect her. I mean what if they did give out goody bags...well she wouldnt get one because there wouldnt have been enough. I didnt want her to feel left out...but at the same time I was hurting her by telling her she couldnt go. I just really hated that...she is over it but it was hard. You hate to see your kids feeling upset.
Have you or your kids ever been in situation like this? What would you have done?